fix(query): resolve spilling problems and refine memory usage in aggregation

[dqhl76]

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Summary

fix(query): resolve spilling problems and refine memory usage in aggregation

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Explain why

Type of change

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max_memory_limit_enabled=true
max_server_memory_usage=34359738368

SETTINGS (max_query_memory_usage = 17179869184, query_out_of_memory_behavior = 'spilling',max_aggregate_spill_level=2) select number, count(number) from numbers(2000000000) group by number ignore_result;

Before this PR, this test will OOM in final aggregation stage. The memory will continue grow.

After: